EYEONDV DV SAFETY PLAN (POST EXIT)
If you remained in your own home, change the locks immediately.
Change your phone number and make sure that it is unlisted.
Install as many security features in and around your home as possible.
Save any threatening voice or text messages. These are evidence and can be used if you decide to pursue legal action against your abuser. If you already have a restraining order in place, these messages are evidence that the order has been violated.
Inform your neighbors that your former partner is not welcome on the premises and (if you have a restraining order) that he/she is not allowed within so many feet. Ask neighbors to call police if they see your abuser anywhere near your property or if he/she is watching your home. Also, give a copy of your restraining order to your property manager if you have one.
If you have children, review their childcare arrangements to make sure they are safe at all times. If you have a restraining order, give a copy to your children’s childcare provider or school along with a picture of your abuser. Make sure they are clear about who has permission to pick your child up from school. If necessary, consider finding a new childcare facility.
If you don’t have one already, get a restraining order and keep it near you at all times. Make sure friends, family, co-workers, you children’s school/day care, and neighbors have copies to show the police in the event that something happens. Laminate your copy of the restraining order so that your abuser cannot tear it up. Keep extra copies in a safe and well-hidden place.
Avoid establishments that you and/or your abuser frequented during your relationship. These places could include: stores, banks, and businesses. You want to avoid running into him/her and his friends/family.
Do whatever you need to do to establish a support system of people who will be there when you need them.
Get counseling, attend workshops, and join support groups.