IT STOPS WITH ME

We each must individually take the stand to stop whatever -ism it is that is in our lives whether it be domestic violence, racism, sexism, etc. If we all take responsibility in that way, we will all see rapid change in our inner-circles which will radiate outward into our environments and then the world.

It must stop with you. I knew from a very young age that I would never exist in an abusive marriage and would absolutely never raise a child in one, so when I saw it happening with me, I immediately took steps to first see if it could be stopped. When it became clear that it wouldn’t, and with the help from GOD, I knew I had to leave. IT STOPPED WITH ME.

Now, “it stopping with you”, is only the beginning. After making that initial decision, one must keep taking that step everyday to make sure, one, you don’t fall in with another abuser, and two, to heal yourself so you don’t set your child up to either become a victim or an abuser. You must show your child healthy love and that begins with you. How do you take care of yourself, how do you take care of others? You are the example.

If you don’t heal yourself, it is an extremely strong possibility that side effects of abuse you endure will end up coming out on your child, inevitably causing a state of constant anxiety for your child, depression, and PTSD, to say the least. These health issues work themselves into the personality of a child, which in turn, become how they communicate with themselves and everyone else. They shape how they see themselves...they will have to battle mental illness everyday of their lives...and possibly become victims or perpetrators of domestic violence, continuing the insidious pattern of abuse that you went through yourself.

My son deserves more than to be crippled by what I experienced. GOD blessed me with the responsibility of taking care of my son...I am not going to let Him down by NOT loving him, by NOT providing the foundation for him that he needs to become the person GOD meant for him to be. In order for our next generation to BE the saviors that the human race needs, we each need to take responsibility, one child at a time, to CREATE the saviors that the human race needs.